Important... Really??

Yesterday I was just thinking of the word IMPORTANT
Dictionary meaning of important - of great significance or value;

We have important things to do and important people in life. I was just thinking of someone who I would not be able to live without. I thought for a while but then came to a conclusion that there is no one in this entire world who I cannot live without.

Had a discussion with my little sis on the same (Let me tell you, she is too smart for her age), she opined “Didi, important people don't not mean we will not be able to live without someone, it is someone without whom, there will be emptiness in our lives" And she also mentioned, important people keep changing in our life which is so true.

There are just a few who will be forever with you and those are the ones who are worth giving the due importance.

People who we think are really necessary for your life may not have the same opinion for you. We need to recognize the right ones and keep them with us forever.

The only point I was trying to make through this write up is that No one is Forever, Life is a journey and we have to find the right companions for this journey and make life worthwhile.

Opportunity cost - LIFE

DEFINITION: Opportunity cost is a key concept in economics. It is the opportunity lost in the next best alternative. It is the cost related to the second best choice available to someone who has picked among several mutually exclusive choices.

Usually opportunity cost is calculated in terms of money.

But have we ever thought opportunity cost in our lives?

Each day we have n number of options and we chose one which we think is the best but we usually don’t give a thought to things we have lost.

Sometimes we lose so many things for a single reason and that single reason turns out to be the wrong option. What are we supposed to do when we are enlightened with something like that?

You can’t get back things you have lost because it’s not money that you can earn back, it’s your precious time or even sometimes precious people that you have lost.

It’s true that realizing mistakes do help in having a better future. But how many such mistakes are allowed in one life?

A thought to share!

A beautiful thought just struck my mind yesterday when I was walking back home with my sister last night.

Just brush up your memory and think how many times in our lives we have walked on the right i.e. the outer side of the road and asked the person walking with us to be on the inner side near the footpath. Have we ever thought why we do this? Many a times for men they do it out of respect.

It is basically to keep the other person safe is what all of y’all are thinking. But it is something more than this.

It means we actually don’t mind risking our life but we want the other person to be safe. The other person’s life is more precious to us than ours. It shows to what extent we care for that person.

That person is too important to us!

International Women’s Day

I have mixed opinions about women’s day celebration. I being a woman have always been a feminist and have tried to protect the identity of this gender.

But now, when given a serious thought I strongly feel that why to create such a chaos about women’s day. “I am proud to be a woman. I am special because I am a woman” don’t make much sense. Each human is proud to be what he/she is.

The problem with we women is we have started believing that the opposite sex is stronger than us and hence we find different ways to prove ourselves. On one hand we say we are equal to men and on the other hand we ourselves prove that we are the weaker sex by celebrating such days.

There is just no need to compare Men and Women because there are no common parameters for this comparison. Comparison is nothing but finding out who is better which is not required in this case.

Women’s day celebration don’t hold any importance in my mind because the women who actually need support and help don’t know what women’s day is and neither the people who harass them know about it. Women who can understand and who celebrate this day don’t actually need it because they have that basic knowledge about life and can stand up against wrong.

I feel it is not about standing against any gender. It’s about standing against the wrong. Any human can be wrong – be it a man or a woman.

Fact: It is an irony that a holiday is declared on Women’s day in Afghanistan but it is the same country that also has the maximum number of harassed women.

Overcoming - The Fear

When I was about 10-11 yrs old, I had been for a picnic with my aunt and her family. We were about 15 of us. My parents hadn’t accompanied us. I don’t exactly remember d place we had visited.

I had worn mojris (closed shoes for women). I had removed the shoes and we were playing in the garden. The elders then got up and said we have 2 leave now. I used to take a lot of time to wear those mojris. Most of the people started walking ahead leaving me behind. My aunt who was my guardian for the day got upset and started moving too. I remember what she said “Let’s go! She will come herself”. Maybe she wanted me to be fast and she got a bit impatient and hence upset.

Now there I was alone. I was so scared that everyone was moving away from me. I was always extra taken care by my parents and at that point of time the thought that I was alone there and everyone had left me crept into my head. Maybe they were just trying to scare me and wanted me to be fast. But I just couldn’t. Was standing there like a fool with tears in my eyes. I just wanted my mummy at that point of time. Later in a few moments, my cousin brother came up and took me from there.

But believe me, I never wore those mojris after that. Today I am 22 and I have just bought 1 pair of closed formal shoes for myself and that too because I was compelled to do that for my interview. I wore it once and then just left it in the shelf last year!

Whenever anyone asked me to try using those shoes, I gave them all sorts of reasons like “I am uncomfortable or I don’t like them”. They thought I was stupid and never forced me. But I don’t know why I just didn’t feel like. Because one thing I have dreaded in my life is to be alone and I was left alone that time because of those mojris. It was scary.

Lately I have started wearing the formal shoes to office because a few friends asked me to. But I had to actually fight the fear in me. It may sound ridiculous but it’s true.

The only thing I want to state through this post is “Don’t do or say something harsh to people specially kids because it may be stupid for you and you may forget it the next moment but it could have a great impact on the other persons mind like how it did to mine.”