Sharing Your Problems… Always helpful??

Today I had taken a day off and a thought crossed my mind. As it is rightly said when you are free, you tend to think too much :)

All of us have problems and all of us have someone or the other with whom we share our problems. If you actually think over, you will realize there are very few things in your life which only YOU know. We always tend to discuss things with someone or the other…could be our friends, loved ones or family. It is absolutely normal to do so. But is it always helpful?
Now that depends on the person with whom we are sharing. The trust factor we have on that person.

But what I feel is sharing doesn’t always help….
Most of the times, the other person will not have the solution to all your problems. He can’t do anything except for listening to you. You say it all, you get sympathy, and you feel good for some time but are your problems solved?
It is very much possible you have invited a few more problems. Now you start thinking will he share what I told him with someone else? And by chance if you have some differences with the person in the future, he could misuse the information he has with him about you. New tension you see.
And the other thing is if you discuss nothing else but your problems with others, there will be a time when they will be fed up. You could lose out on your friends that way.

I know, I am being too negative about the people around us but all of us have faced these kinds of things in our lives some time or the other. When we have fights, we tend to speak things which we are not supposed to but we do. It is human nature.
It is also normal to discuss things with people around us because we all need each other at the end.

But I strongly feel sharing your happiness is always better than sharing your problems or sorrow. Happiness increases when you share but sharing problems could very much increase our problems :)