New Year!!

We are all ready to welcome a bright new year.
When I look back, I don’t remember each thing that has happened in my life in the year 2010.
But yes, I met some new people in my life; have built some new experiences, made some new friends. Basically have built new relations with a lot of people.
Not everything is same, the way it was in the beginning of the year. Not the same people are as important as they were before. Old friends have become ex friends. Some Old relatives have become like strangers. I am replaced by others in some close ones lives. Life has changed. I don’t agree that all the changes were for good but yes things have changed.
Life just goes on. The miraculous part is that somehow everyone gets the strength to accept these changes and still be happy.
Just learnt one thing that we should always accept life with a beautiful smile and open arms!

Smile NOW because this moment won’t ever come back.
Wishing everyone a very Happy New Year. Have a great life!!

Inspiration from a Little Girl..

Yesterday, I boarded a train to CST from Ghatkopar at around 8.45 in d morning for my college. Being the peak office time, the train was pretty crowded. With all the hustle and bustle got into the train and found a place to stand.

The next station, i.e. at Kurla, a little girl with 3 of her fellow relatives were waiting to board the train. They had 2 huge bags with them. It was difficult for them to get into the train but somehow they managed to get in!

This little girl was very amused by the crowd and the way they had managed to enter the train somehow with their luggage. Instead of getting irritated or scared, she burst out with laughter and was continuously laughing. She thoroughly enjoyed sneaking inside the crowd. And because she was so happy, her family members also had smiles on their faces!

She brought smiles on the faces of almost everyone around. I aksed her name and she very cutely answered MEHEK…

Mehek inspired me so much yesterday. She taught me how to face life. When you are going through a problem in your life fight against it, manage to leave it behind and move forward but do all this with a Beautiful Smile on your face… Life is how you see it!! :)

Human Needs Vs Happiness

Man is an animal with ever growing needs and wants. We are all selfish creatures and we know that too well. We do things just to fulfill our needs. We behave in a certain way because there is an underlying need that we have.. :)

Just want to share my thought on this.

When we are hungry, we eat food…. Our need of hunger is satisfied but if we have our food with our loved one, our friend, our family, we feel good and happy.

Shelter is required, so we have a home to live in. Who we live with, is important? If we are asked to live alone all our life in the most beautifully made house, our need of shelter will be satisfied but we won’t be happy.

We all have emotional needs like we want to be loved; to love; to earn; to build our status in the society etc. Here again we earn a lot of money, more than we had thought of but who are we spending that money with would define our happiness.

Same is with human physical needs.

Needs could be fulfilled. But just fulfilling your need won’t result in happiness.

If I have food to eat, home to live, partner to sleep with, money to spend but no loved one around me, I would survive but not Live!

Helplessness

I checked the net and found a few definitions on helplessness. The one which I felt was the most relevant is “Helplessness is the feeling someone gets when he finds himself unable to change something that is important to him.”

Now when you want to change something and you can’t, you tend to feel depressed. We all say every problem has a solution. This statement sounds very nice but it’s not always true.

If we all look into our lives, we haven’t been able to solve all our problems. We have ignored some of them or we have simply accepted some and made them as a part of our life. As it is rightly said, “If you can’t avoid it, learn to live with it”

Some problems cannot be solved and similarly some things can’t be changed. When this kind of situation occurs in our life, we feel depressed, we start feeling helpless.

We want to go to any extent to solve the problem, want to do anything to make the current situation better. We even start dreaming of how beautiful our life would be after things have changed. But in reality nothing has changed. The problem still exists and you are still thinking of ways to solve it. It’s all the same.

The feeling of helplessness creeps into each cell of your body. Lately I have realized its one of the worst feelings anyone can experience.

Patience and time may make things better but again it’s not always healthy to be over positive about things.

Sharing Your Problems… Always helpful??

Today I had taken a day off and a thought crossed my mind. As it is rightly said when you are free, you tend to think too much :)

All of us have problems and all of us have someone or the other with whom we share our problems. If you actually think over, you will realize there are very few things in your life which only YOU know. We always tend to discuss things with someone or the other…could be our friends, loved ones or family. It is absolutely normal to do so. But is it always helpful?
Now that depends on the person with whom we are sharing. The trust factor we have on that person.

But what I feel is sharing doesn’t always help….
Most of the times, the other person will not have the solution to all your problems. He can’t do anything except for listening to you. You say it all, you get sympathy, and you feel good for some time but are your problems solved?
It is very much possible you have invited a few more problems. Now you start thinking will he share what I told him with someone else? And by chance if you have some differences with the person in the future, he could misuse the information he has with him about you. New tension you see.
And the other thing is if you discuss nothing else but your problems with others, there will be a time when they will be fed up. You could lose out on your friends that way.

I know, I am being too negative about the people around us but all of us have faced these kinds of things in our lives some time or the other. When we have fights, we tend to speak things which we are not supposed to but we do. It is human nature.
It is also normal to discuss things with people around us because we all need each other at the end.

But I strongly feel sharing your happiness is always better than sharing your problems or sorrow. Happiness increases when you share but sharing problems could very much increase our problems :)

Be Yourself

“We need to change according to our environment. I didn’t change, circumstances forced me to.” All these are very common statements. But I don’t believe in any of them.

According to me no person can ever change. His nature, his thoughts, his way of thinking will always be the same.

I have seen people who portray themselves in different ways at different places. It could be in means of their opinions, their personality or their thoughts.

They are basically hypocrites according to me. They don’t have the ability to show what they are. They always tend to follow others and be like them.

We need to ask ourselves also whether Wherever we are, do we show our true self or even we show that side of our personality what others want to see or what others would appreciate?

If one is doing so, he needs to understand that he is running away from his own self. By doing so, you will surely get temporary satisfaction but you will never be happy. One needs to be confident of what they are and the way they are.

Changing ourselves to be a part of the larger crowd is a sign of being a real COWARD.